tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post3042345860995479175..comments2023-05-30T10:08:06.523+01:00Comments on "Coming out" as a bisexual Bangladeshi: Coming Out to...the Best FriendTraveller_23http://www.blogger.com/profile/08397215586469652072noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-13429311952103078012013-02-18T23:34:01.920+00:002013-02-18T23:34:01.920+00:00Her Response:
You can easily quantify that proba...Her Response: <br /><br />You can easily quantify that probability anytime you go out with a group of people. Ask a trusted straight friend how many people they are attracted to and see if you're attracted to more or less.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-44464577678967761812013-02-18T21:27:57.697+00:002013-02-18T21:27:57.697+00:00That's the problem - how do you quantify that ...That's the problem - how do you quantify that probability? People tend to err on the side of more probable, with the obvious negative consequences.<br /><br />I'm not saying you didn't make valid points. I'm just showing you what it looks like from the other side, and why your points may not be entirely correct. Traveller_23https://www.blogger.com/profile/08397215586469652072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-55757442672593045722013-02-18T04:00:29.401+00:002013-02-18T04:00:29.401+00:00Her response:
Okay, seriously, I think you need t...Her response:<br /><br />Okay, seriously, I think you need to tone down the victimized attitude and accept that I made valid points too. Also, for the record I don't think bisexuals are greedy and want everything. <br /><br />I'm talking about probability here. If you're bisexual and hanging out with a bunch of people (guys and girls), the probability is that you're going to like more people than I am as a straight woman because you're attracted to both sexes. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-37698811510453818232013-02-14T23:09:46.892+00:002013-02-14T23:09:46.892+00:00Checked - this is in fact Her response.
Why would...Checked - this is in fact Her response.<br /><br />Why would the fact that one partner is bisexual imply they would be attracted to "more" people? They would just possibly be attracted to people of "different" sexes. "Different" sexes does not imply "more" people. The idea they would somehow be attracted to twice the number people goes back to the age-old misconception that bisexuals are greedy and want everything. <br /><br />So while it may boil down to compatibility with bisexuality taking a prominent role, ultimately the assumptions being made would still be rooted specifically in a misunderstanding of what bisexuality is.Traveller_23https://www.blogger.com/profile/08397215586469652072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-84151889858099597362013-02-10T00:53:37.573+00:002013-02-10T00:53:37.573+00:00This is Her response:
I think in the long term i...This is Her response: <br /><br />I think in the long term it's indicative of something wrong in the relationship but in the short term, as in the initial dating stage, I think bisexuality understandably plays a greater role in determining the dynamics. <br /><br />When you just start dating someone, that's when you're just getting to know them and there's a risk that it won't work out due to a variety of factors, such as the possibility that they might be more attracted to someone else. This is definitely an issue in straight dating situations and I would think more so in bisexual dating situations where you're more likely to question the number of other people your partner may be attracted to. <br /><br />Therefore, I imagine it's harder for a couple, where one individual is bisexual, to make the leap from a dating to relationship stage. This is not to say that the road is harder solely because of the bisexuality factor; for example, the other partner could have more than your average trust issues which might blow the situation out of proportion. It ultimately boils down to an issue of compatibility, but one in which bisexuality takes a somewhat prominent role. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-52543172649475913872013-02-03T18:41:48.461+00:002013-02-03T18:41:48.461+00:00I would say it's more indicative of something ...I would say it's more indicative of something else that's wrong with the relationship. I offered her that hypothetical scenario because it was one I felt bisexual men encounter a lot when dating. <br /><br />IMO most straight women aren't used to the idea of a bisexual man. Consequently there's a certain "weirdness factor" to the idea that their boyfriends/husbands/partners could wander into the arms of another man, and this puts them off.<br /><br />This is not the only type of misconception I've encountered, as you can probably guess. Traveller_23https://www.blogger.com/profile/08397215586469652072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5538455386155037174.post-20921110594348667032013-02-03T16:28:27.698+00:002013-02-03T16:28:27.698+00:00"For instance, when he visited a few months a..."For instance, when he visited a few months after telling me he was bisexual, he asked if I would ever date a bisexual guy. I responded with an instant yes without considering the cons until my best friend offered one: wouldn’t I feel more threatened because there was the possibility of my boyfriend wandering off into the arms of another man or woman?"<br /><br />My question to you both (and b/c I've been asked something similar and had the same 'risk' outlined to me): why is the possibility of the partner wandering into the arms of someone else higher if the partner in question is of a different sexual orientation? If that happens, isn't that more indicative of something at fault with the relationship itself rather than being a direct result of the bisexuality of the partner?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com